Mom's Inspiring Message For Those Feeling Lost

When I'm feeling lost, I recite (over and over) Philippians 4:13 - "I can do all things through Christ whom strengthens me." As you read this mom's story of hurt and healing, pray for them as God reveals himself to them through tiny miracles. He's also giving them a lifetime of testimonies they can share with others as God's love and light shines through. God loves us all and wants us to draw near to him...especially when we're lost at sea.



Though my feet are firmly planted on desert soil, my soul is lost at sea.


Sometimes, the ocean of my daughter’s diagnosis is calm. I find myself floating just at the surface, with every newly acquired word or skill she’s mastered like a ray of sunshine on my face. Her accomplishments, big and small, feel like ripples of joy surrounding me. She has this incredible joyful nature. She’s almost always happy, and she spreads her happiness around to everyone she comes in contact with.


It’s beautiful to see how she lights up the world around her. I bask in her sunny disposition, but then out of nowhere I begin to drown again. I never really know the cause of the storms. Sometimes it’s just seeing the gap grow between her and her similarly aged friends. Sometimes it’s a phone call from a specialist, sometimes it’s making a phone call to a specialist. Sometimes it’s nothing. Sometimes the waves just suddenly appear, the sky turns black, and I fall below the surface again. My lungs fill with the icy waters of grief, and I can’t breathe as the weight of my daughter’s condition crushes me. I plummet toward the bottom.


It wasn’t like that at first. Her diagnosis came in waves, and I was just getting my feet wet when the real diagnosis came. My daughter was first diagnosed with “delays,” but that didn’t seem too bad. We just need to do some speech therapy and we’ll get back on track. We’ll get her caught up. We can do this! She doesn’t have too far to go. After her MRI, we learned she has a structural brain abnormality, coordination delays, speech delays, and she will probably have epilepsy. It’s OK. We’ve got this.


Her neurologist impressed upon me the importance of early intervention. Thankfully, she’s neurologically functional, so with enough work and intervention, she has a chance for a good life — maybe even a “normal” life. I stood on the shore and saw a beacon of hope far out in the distance. I made my checklist of things to do to get her to the other side of her condition, the side where we can hold on to the notion of the child we thought we had. I dove in headfirst and swam hard and fast, accomplishing everything that needed to be done for her. Therapists, check. Specialists, check. Keep swimming. Evaluations, check. Keep going. Almost there.Follow-ups check. You’re done! But I had not arrived.



I didn’t even realize I’d been swept out to the middle of the ocean, and I was exhausted. Spent. I cannot go any further. Her therapies are like anchors in my week. 9 a.m. Wednesday occupational therapy, 10 a.m Wednesday speech therapy, 12 p.m. Thursday physical therapy, 9 a.m. Saturday Hippotherapy. 7:45-10:15 Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday special needs preschool. Every other moment is spent being tossed around, unsure of which way I’m heading. I love watching her work and make progress. A few months ago she couldn’t ride a bike; now she can. Last week she identified a few letters in her name. This week, she sat down and did everything her therapists asked, and she kept her attention on their activities the whole time. It’s so exciting to see her overcome her challenges. I feel the sun on my face; I see hope.


The waters are calm. and everything is going to be OK. My search and rescue party is small. I keep my circle tight. I hear all the time how, “You’re handling everything so well.” And, “I don’t know how you do it.” And, “You’re superwoman!” but most people have no idea that I’m drowning, and I have to take refuge under my covers every afternoon when my daughter naps because I just need a reprieve from the grief and sadness that swirls around me. They don’t know that I’m trying to find the right antidepressant so I can be functional again. They only know my brave face.


I’ve become so skilled at navigating questions about my daughter. It’s rehearse, recite, repeat. The common question of, “How is your daughter doing?” is easy. List the accomplishments, list her schedule, list her diagnosis and finish with “She’s doing great!” The question that I cannot answer is, “How are you doing?” Uh oh. We’re taking on water. Adjust the sails, change the subject, get out of there because the storms are coming in again. And I thought the forecast was sunny. I get pulled under again, start to sink. I’m not sure if it’s my asthma or my anxiety, but my lungs aren’t working and I can’t breathe.


Luckily, there’s always a loving outstretched hand that plunges into the water to pull me back to the surface. A precious friend who knows I’m drowning or my husband sends a text at just the right time. They lift me up when I need it most so I can float on a little longer. They know the unpredictable and tumultuous nature of my emotions. They know when I need to have fun, when I need to cry, when I need to laugh, when I need to run and they know all of those things could happen in the span of moments. They part the clouds, and I’m back in the calm center of the storm where I can find the sun again, enjoy my daughter and focus on the things that need to be done for her. I can barely make out the shore, but it’s there.



There’s hope out there for her, for us. My deepest desire is that this journey won’t last forever. It seems that this ocean filled with my own tears is vast and deep, and every time I think I’m getting better and accepting of our new normal, I get pulled further out to sea. I hope someday soon I’ll make landfall and stay out of the deep forever. I’ll visit from time to time, but never need to cross it again.


HT: The Mighty


The beautiful poem by Mary Stevenson says it best...Footprints In The Sand


One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord.

Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.

In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand.

Sometimes there were two sets of footprints,

other times there were one set of footprints.


This bothered me because I noticed

that during the low periods of my life,

when I was suffering from

anguish, sorrow or defeat,

I could see only one set of footprints.


So I said to the Lord,

"You promised me Lord,

that if I followed you,

you would walk with me always.

But I have noticed that during

the most trying periods of my life

there have only been one

set of footprints in the sand.

Why, when I needed you most,

you have not been there for me?"


The Lord replied,

"The times when you have

seen only one set of footprints,

is when I carried you.


Here is wonderful story about an angel named "Mom"



Philippians 4:13


Here is a mother who she gave her life to save her daughter.  




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